when I stopped giving my identity to my business
Recently, I was asked in a group call how motherhood impacted my business.
Honestly, , many times a day, I think about having less time now, almost no moments of leisure by myself, and saying goodbye to working on days off. My day-to-day thoughts often sit in scarcity.
But in that moment, all I said was this:
Becoming a mother transformed me into the focused, driven creator I feel I am today.
And I see two reasons for that:
The first one is obvious: less time forces you to prioritise better. It’s not always the case, but it can really push you in that direction.
The second one — and I feel this made a much bigger impact — is that the moment my daughter was born, my life gained a very clear and loud purpose.
I used to look for my life’s purpose in my business, which felt reasonable, since we spend so much time here. But that created a relationship filled with fear, self-doubt, and a constant feeling of being overexposed (even when I barely showed up). My emotional system was completely unregulated.
Because my business was me.
I had given it my identity.
It took me a couple of years to find my place back here, and I don’t think there’s a blueprint. But sometimes the voids we feel need to be filled before we can move forward.
I’m not sure becoming a parent is the right purpose (if that even exists). Part of me fears the day she won’t need me the way she does now. I’ll have to repurpose my purpose — and I’m not looking forward to that.
But I want to believe that we always have a naturally aligned purpose in every stage of life — it might just not always be as clear and loud as motherhood is.
So we gotta dig deep.
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